Sunday 11 January 2015

How do you get back on with life following the death of a baby or child.

There are many different books out there and theories that people have come up with to help people through a loss. 

However every person and family is different.

Some families who have lost a child try to deal with the matter of how to be themselves together or with their community.

They look at ways of making life meaningful again.

They try to develop in the parts of them that did not die with their child or loved one.

They try to get themselves involved with other activities and possibly other relationships.

Most bereaved parents will usually still say that there is always a sense of loss that can never be healed.


After a loss of any close family member, life can never return to 'normal'.

A new 'normal' now takes its place.

Other people say that throwing themselves back into work and old routines helps them to keep on with life. 

The routine helps them to deal with the chaos that is going on in their heads.

They say that having life go back to how it used to be can give them a sense of purpose and belonging. 

This in turn helps them to get their life back on track.

Some would say that this could be seen as the family trying to forget the person they have lost.

A family will never forget a loved one they just learn to live life again without them in it.

I feel that whatever way you find to help you get through the situation is the right way for you.

There is no right or wrong way to move on with life, and whichever way works for you has to be the right way.

There are always people that will criticise or judge families for how they perceive them to be moving on but until they have lived a day in the life of a bereaved family they do not have the right to judge.


We would really like to hear how you have managed to move on with your lives, or if you are still struggling to find your way. 

Sharing ideas can be a great way of helping with the healing or can give families ideas to try to help them on their journey,

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